...Things I Learned From My Friends...

i believe that each person we meet has something to teach us or something to impart to us while invading our personal space whether it'll be positive or negative this effects are the ones that changed and molded us from what we are now...

• I learned that no matter how you want someone to be your friend, you can’t force it.

• That trust is not easy as handling a candy to a friend…

• That secrets can create a long time gap no matter how you say it don’t matter, it matters a lot!

• That friendship is not about giving and hoping to get back what you have given, it’s about fitting to someone’s shortcomings, unconditionally embrace his/her personality and giving unlimited care and understanding without any expectations…

• That it's better to speak your mind and let yourself be understood rather than cold shouldering all things for the rest of your life!

• That every friend in your life has different impact in your life and time of exposure to them is not even a basis on determining who’s special and who’s not.

• That finding a friend who can ride all your simple nothing jives, likes and can understand all your insanity is a blessing.

• That planning to get even to someone will inflict twice/thrice the pain you do to them.

• That no matter how hard you try to be a better person, you can’t please all people nor have everybody as a friend.

• That there are times that you can’t really understand something by yourself only.

• That first impression never lasts!

• That people are indeed quite unique! We may feel insecure every once in a while but we just need to see ourselves in a positive way and not our flaws all the time! We need to understand and love ourselves for us to have self-confidence and then, eventually at the end, self respect!

• People have different individualities for each and everyone of us has different upbringing and experiences that molded our personality and way of dealing in life…

• That doing nothing is the most excruciating pain to inflict to your enemy…

• The collision of two tempers can be flammable…

• That there are really clean hearted people.

• That boyfriends/girlfriends are the mortal enemy of friends sometimes.

• That bestfriends? Aren’t all made by just a day or two! It’s a long term process, not a plan but exploring, understanding and caring that both parties are never really are aware of doing coz it comes naturally for they both enjoy the company and love to help those they dearly love without any hesitation!

• Sometimes we fight hard to change other’s negative traits but no matter how hard we want that, we have no right to change someone just because we desire to because change? Should be one’s will and own decision to make! It’s neither forced nor just because all are suddenly against you. It’s a sudden engulfment of pride, self-realization, courage and bravery to take and accept change to happen in your life because you want to be a better person! Not for others but for yourself!

• Sometimes you really don’t have to feel hurt that someone cant appreciate your effort or care because sometimes the point is just to care or to do without expecting something in return coz its up to the person what will be the effect of that action and the fact that you’ve shown your true personality as a friend and as a person is what really matters.

• Sometimes distance is all we need in order to realize how important someone is, how you truly care for someone and what you are as a friend. You will also know who among your friends will fight hard against time and break apart distance just to save the relationship you two have! And above all, you’ll know how important you are to someone!

• That people have his/her secret keeper material friend standards/characteristics, if you don't have them or fit in it, you don't have the privilege to know his/her deeper self or secrets.
  

• That no matter how bad you want to help if trust is the issue, its complicated.

• That no matter how big you care and treasure a person you don’t really have to make expectations that they will reciprocate the way that you anticipate them to do towards you.

• That people have different ways of showing and concealing their emotions.

• That there are people that can be hard as a rock and don’t feel any emotions.

• That sometimes no matter how it hurts there are people that can go a day, weeks, months or even a year without missing you.

• It hurts when someone doesn't understand what you feel and what are you going through, when you stand for what you believe is right but for them it's wrong and so as when every freaking efforts you've done are not recognized. You know why it sucks? Because the people you care about and the one's you badly want to care for you are the one's who always take you for granted!

And lastly…

• Silence? Can break someone's heart gradually coz it’ll make you think that someone is not thinking of you at all but my silence? Is the one that’s breaking my heart coz every time I’m secretly longing and missing someone? It bleeds out & cry because of sadness.