For me, the factor that I chose that affects my socialization and way of dealing with others greatly is the family. Why? Because I do believe that half of the child’s personality is truly dependent on how his/her parent raised him/her. Family is the first environment that a child learns to adapt, first learn to think and first learn to have simple realizations or comprehensions about simple things in life. The manner from which those simple things had been introduced to them by their parents is how they are able to react to present issues and tasks. The way the family communicates inside the house is how a child would eventually communicate outside or if not it would the other way around because they want to experience the things that they don’t have inside the house. School, peers and mass media are just the latter influences on socialization; they may also affect one’s socialization but not that much for the root of all it is the family.
Like me, who grew up inside a family who doesn’t have an a tight bond and communication I found it hard to mingle to new acquaintances or have a friend right away because I grew up in an environment that don’t speak that much and doesn’t have that much physical interaction or saying affection. What I am now mainly is because of how they raised me and how my family interacts. When I was a child, I am always the one left inside the house or I was just being taken cared by my aunt because my parents are both working and all of my sisters are studying and by that I develop somewhat a little sense and trait of independence, loner and shyness. I wasn’t used to speaking to new people and strangers, I usually just write all my experiences because I don’t have much people with the same age that I was that I can talk to and I was used to doing things by myself. When I started to go to school it was really hard for me at first to mingle with others but you know what? After they have talked to me and told stories about their lives I began to realize that this so called socialization or “Winnie the Pooh” friendship things can really exist that what I don’t have at home, I can have outside. That’s the reason why I treat my friends at the utmost care and support that I can give because for me, they are my “family”. Although I it’s hard to befriend me sometimes because I don’t usually approach people, talk that much and even if their my friends I sometimes don’t usually say all my problems because I need to see that they are trustworthy first before I say it because I don’t just really give my reliance to people right away. Why? Because I was used to it, I grew up with that kind of environment and that’s how I was raised.
...yah well, i can go on and on and yank about it but hey! I'm all grown up...and even if there are missing pieces, i guess i can find them in the present or if not let us see in the mere future...
-it's how i run my life...
